What Do Real Men Look For in a Nice Jewish Girl?
By Ric 'The Equalizer' Drasin
Every man is attracted to great looks. There is no question that our eyes are attracted to things that look great whether it be women, cars, houses, scenery or anything else. But, let's take Women! There are a lot of great women out there and I know many of them that tell me that they just can't find a man, let alone the right Jewish man. Sure, it's hard to find a partner in any type of relationship.
What we find attractive visually isn't really what we want when we get to know the person. Of course we want a partner who looks good and looks their best, but other features have to come forward. Let me compare this to an automobile just for analogy sake. You buy a beautiful car, but you continually have engine problems and can't drive it. Well, it's not what you expected and besides the looks of the car, it has many other features and some of them aren't working. This happens in relationships as well. All the person's cylinders should be firing in sync.
It's not always about looks. For all of you women who think that men only want 'one thing', that's not always true. Sure we are all animals and the male species is a hunter and is out to satisfy his needs. It goes beyond that and usually with maturity.
When I was younger, I dated a lot of women. I was the lead guitarist in a rock band and that attracted a lot of girls. As I grew older, I became a Pro Wrestler, in front of thousands of people. Again I was approached by big numbers of women. But, through all of that, I would look deeper into the person and was more impressed with good conversation and intelligence. I honestly feel that beauty really does come from within. I also wanted to find someone Jewish like myself. That was the hard part, especially growing up in a small 'hick' town. Jewish women make great wives and mothers. Jewish men make great fathers and husbands. It's a natural.
I moved to Los Angeles and of course the Valley was full of nice looking Jewish women. I met a lot and finally settled in on someone who was right for me. But I had to go through a lot of personalities before that happened.
I've seen so many gorgeous women who are very shallow and really have nothing to offer in a conversation, and when tempers flair, they get real ugly, quick! Everyone has an ugly side, and it just depends on how it comes out. A lot of people hide it at first and put their best foot forward. The other person feels that they are getting a really well balanced person and then when familiarity sets in, the other side appears. They feel that being pretty is enough. It may be satisfying for the first 15 minutes and then what? I've had even younger guys express the same feelings to me. Seems to me like the younger guys are catching on as well.
Let's face it that looks and lust are the attraction and then after that you need to find more that you have in common. I honestly believe that today's man is looking for the same thing that women are. We all want a good partner that is attractive, intelligent and above all honest, but also attitude figures in as well. No one likes a bad attitude and many times this comes by way of insecurity. Showing a 'chip' on your shoulder or maybe a better than thou attitude. Just be friendly, nice and open. Don't hide behind masks as the real you will come out at some point.
So, when you think that all guys are no good, you are only hitting a small percentage. There are a lot of men out there that want the same thing that you do. Just weed through them. Be honest, be yourself, be upfront but don't be too demanding for commitment right off. Let them get to know the 'inner' you and what you are all about. Trust me, you'll find the right one if you do.
Ric Drasin, pro wrestler, author, producer and businessman, involved in senior fitness programs. He conducts motivated speaking engagements and demos. Ric also has an online column called FEMINE EYE from A STRAIGH GUY at
www.toughandtender.biz and can be contacted through www.ricdrasin.com
from the February 2004 Edition of the Jewish Magazine