Polish Holocaust Memoir



   
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A Memoir

By Roma Talasowicz-Eibuszyc Copyright ã 1979

Title: ďBeshert - It Was Meant To BeĒ

(Translated from Polish in 2007 by Suzanna Eibuszyc

ďBESHERT - It Was Meant To BeĒ is now at the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington D C as part of their permanent collection.)

Prologue

On the day of her death in 2006 I found a box containing the pages of my motherís diary. In a thin, shaky handwriting she recalled heart-searing memories that began with being born a Jew in Warsaw in 1917. I proceeded to translate her story from Polish to English. I quickly realized how important it was that the stories of her life, as well as the lives of her family not perish with their deaths. I respectfully present my mother, Roma Talasiewiczí memoir that she, and those whom she loved may continue to live.

Chapter One

June 1979

My daughter has convinced me to write about my life. She has promised to translate my words and edit it while respecting my experiences and feelings and maintain my own voice as much as possible.

Painful though this will be, I have decided that she is right. I do this not so much to preserve my own story, but rather that my brothers and sisters will not have perished with their stories untold. I risk feeling again the tormented sleep on an open field with one, thin blanket between me and the sky. My stomach will again be gnawed away by the constant hunger. I will see the German planes over Warsaw and hear the explosions of bombs. Will those who read of my life be ready for the lice, the humiliation, and the never-ending fever and chills of Malaria? Will they understand that it is possible to lose ones mother two times? Should I describe the beatings that put Sevek at the edge of death, or the cold that seeped into my bones and never quite left? They tell me I am to Ďbear witnessí, that I Ďhave an obligationí. So be it. It was beshert, meant to be that I live the life Iíve had, and I suppose beshert that I now write what I remember:

We lived in a poor Jewish neighborhood in Warsaw where there were no bathrooms or running water inside our apartments. Later on in history this neighborhood was termed a ghetto. Regardless of what it was called, the poverty was all around me, and the reality was that in order to wash up or relieve myself, I had to use a large public bathroom in the courtyard of our building. I tried not to go there more often than absolutely necessary, as the bathroom was dirty, dark and scary as well. The garbage containers were also right there in the courtyard. This lack of sanitation contributed greatly to the spread of tuberculoses, typhus and dysentery. By some miracle, our family was spared these diseases. Yet there were many times in later years, as I slept in the cold of an open field, or when I saw my brother the day he came back from Stalinís Labor Camps, or when all the horrible events that overtook my family came about, it was then that I wondered: might it have been better to have succumbed to these diseases and been spared what was to be our lives?

I am told that when I was born on April 16th, 1917, World War I was raging. For over a hundred years Poland had been occupied and partitioned by Germany, then called Prussia, Austria and Russia. Once again the people were faced with extreme oppression. Russiaís rule over Warsaw ended with the outbreak of WWI. Polish people were starving and dying of typhus. The casualties were horrendous.

It was during this time also that Tsar Nicholas II was dethroned by his own people in Russia. In Poland there were revolutionaries who sympathized with the overthrowing of the Tsar. Many of them were Jews. The dream in 1918 post war, newly independent Poland, was to somehow follow in the footsteps of Leninís ideology, where everyone would be equal. This dream appealed to the majority of Polish Jews who were poor, exploited, had little or no education, and lived in overcrowded tenement buildings. There were some wealthy business owners who were Polish Jews, but not many.

I was the sixth and last child born to Bina Symengauz and Pinkus Talasowicz. My parents named me Rajzla, although on the streets of my neighborhood I was called by my Polish name, Roma. I am told that my father, like most men of our class and time, worked two jobs to support us. Motherís job to raise her six children as best she could was even more difficult. Like all Jewish women of her class and generation, she did not have a job outside of the home, instead she raised a large family. Mother came from a poor, religious family; her mother stayed home as well and raised eight children. Motherís was the last generation to have many children and live like their parents before them.

We lived in a tiny fourth floor apartment in an old tenement building on 54 Nowolipki Street. That apartment comes back to me in my dreams. I see the eight of us living in one room, although in reality I could never have seen this; I was a one year-old baby. The First WW had not yet ended when my thirty-six year old father died. It was a sudden death from something as simple as an ear infection. When I was older, I remember going with mother to the cemetery. A cut down tree trunk marked his grave.

I can not imagine how mother managed with no husband and six young children in a city ravaged by war where most everyone was struggling to survive. My oldest brother, Adek was twelve at the time father died. It was a blessing that the owner of the textile factory where father worked let Adek take fatherís job. I am sure that it was thanks to that ownerís generosity that we survived that first year, as well as later on. My twin sisters Pola and Sala were eleven, and as hungry as we were, Mother did not have the heart to send them off to work. That this was not the case with other parents says so much about my mother. Many children were sent to work at a younger age than twelve. My sister Andza and brother Sevek were seven and four, at the time of fatherís death.

My first memories still haunt me to this day. I donít know how old I was but I see myself with my brothers and sisters, hungry, cold, and alone in our room waiting for Mother to return. It is not difficult, even now, to feel the gnawing hunger and the cold in my bones from that day. I sat on the edge of the narrow bed I shared with Mother and watched the door for hours, just waiting for her to come home. We didnít know where she had gone but she had been gone all day. My fear that she was never coming home grew stronger as darkness descended. We were forbidden to light the kerosene lamp when we were alone. I remember how mother looked when the door opened. She was disheveled and out of breath as though she had been chased. She paused for a few seconds, walked over to me, and gave me the small piece of bread she clutched to her chest. I devoured it turning away from my starving brothers and sisters. Intellectually, rationally there is no reason to feel guilty. I know I was too young to be accountable. But in my heart, I ask myself over and over, how could I have eaten this piece of bread and not shared even a bite?

In 1919, when the twins turned twelve, they went to work. They worked long hours for low wages, and their efforts barely helped at home. In those days most employers took advantage of working children, so Pola and Sala were paid only a fraction of what adult workers earned. It seems that when father was alive, the family had managed in the tiny apartment. However, now my mother could no longer pay the rent. As unbelievable as it might sound today, she finally broke down and rented our kitchen to a couple who had one son. As that family grew, there were eventually five people living in our kitchen.

Our family of seven lived in one room that was always dark, even in the daytime. The sun never reached our small window. I remember how I blew on the window to defrost it in the winter. I wanted so much to see what was going on outside. I guess it became a habit of sorts. Even today, I will sit for hours looking out my apartment window, watching life go by in the streets of New York.

At night, the one kerosene lamp lit my life. We had two beds, three chairs, a large table and a dresser. We slept two in a bed and at night mother unfolded an additional bed. Since we were seven, my older siblings took turns sleeping on a hay-stuffed mattress that mother placed on top of the table. This was the least comfortable place to sleep, but I can still remember the anticipation of stuffing the mattress with fresh hay that brought its sweet smell to our room. We did this every spring before Passover.

Regardless of how little money she had to feed us, mother secretly saved for the whole year to make sure we had a proper, religious Passover. She made sure we understood the importance of this holiday, and of celebrating the Exodus of our people from Egypt. Today, when I contemplate Mother saving like this, in view of the fact that on many days we had practically nothing to eat, I am struck by her devotion to her faith. Then too we barely saw her awake for the last six weeks before the holiday. Mother, along with the other Jewish women in our neighborhood, made matzoth (unleavened, crisp bread) by hand, all night in a bakery to earn a little money. I remember how we tiptoed around so she could sleep during the day. Those six weeks were difficult for all of us, but we understood and respected what Mother was doing.

Before Passover, as is the custom for generations, everything was washed and cleaned, and the night before we checked our room one last time to make sure not even a crumb of bread was overlooked. When I look back now, I realize how purely ritualistic this custom was. In reality we searched for a crumb in a one room apartment that barely had bread for more than a few minutes at any given time to begin with.

Passover began at sunset, and ended with a traditional Seder dinner (specially prepared meal) late into the night. Mother always put me to bed in the late afternoon for a long nap so I too could stay up late at night with the rest of the family. Aside from the religious part, and of course the extra food, I looked forward to Passover because it meant spring was coming. Spring meant I wouldnít be cold all the time. Soon I would be breathing fresh, warm air. It also meant I would be allowed to leave our dark apartment, where the sun never reached and play with the other children in our courtyard. How I ran down those stairs! Iíd step out into the courtyard and take a long, deep breath. I filled my lungs with spring air and turn my white face toward the sun, welcoming its warm rays.

As a young child I was small for my age, and very quiet. I was also sick a lot. The children loved to make fun of me although I didnít know why. I was in such rapture being out there in the warm sun I had no idea my back was growing round from lack of vitamins, although I did know that I lived with almost constant hunger. I dreaded those times when, due to my poor diet, my leg bones popped out of their joints. At first Iíd cried for mother, but after a while, the pain in her face was even worse than the physical pain. Besides, there was nothing much she could do. Medical care was primitive and just about non-existent, and most of the families in our neighborhood would not have been able to afford medical help anyway. Yes, there were home remedies like using young onion shoots for skin infections. I donít know how effective they were but even now, when I smell an onion I feel better.

When I was six years old my tongue erupted with an infection that no home remedy could cure. Mother used the last of her money to take me to a doctorís assistant, a much less expensive way to get medical help. We came home with a liquid that was supposed to be put on my tongue every day. For some reason it was my older brother, Adekís job to wrap a stick in cotton and cover my tongue with the awful medicine. I cried bitterly every time from the pain, but after two weeks, I was not only happy for myself, but for Adek too. He was so proud that my tongue was completely healed.

I was too young to remember when the war ended in 1918, but Mother described to me many times how wives with eyes and arms raised towards the sky begged God for the safe return of their husbands. Children too danced happily around their mothers waiting to be rejoined with their fathers. Mother put her hands over her face as she finished the war story. ďOf course my husband was not coming home, she said with a stifled sob. ďI had only the black earth that covered his body.Ē I understood at a very young age that her husband, our father, was never coming home.

I often wonder, even now, what it would be like to have and to be loved by a father. I never saw a photograph so I donít know what my father looked like. I was told he was a tall, thin man who was a good husband and devoted father. One of nine children, from a very observant but a well-off family, he worked in a textile factory. His other job was in the back room of a pharmacy which was considered, in those days, an important job. I did know of his parents somewhat, especially my grandfather Gerson Talasiewicz, who was a well-known man in the Jewish community. He was a rabbi and a teacher who owned a private, traditional, Jewish school, otherwise known as a Cheder. To attend Grandfatherís Cheder, which accommodated about forty male students, one had to come from an affluent family. The Cheder was located on Stawki Street, which was across the street from where we lived. The school was situated on a nice piece of land and was surrounded by grass and a fence with a gate that was almost always locked. To the side of this property, stood a small house, the Cheder was on the ground floor; my grandparents lived above it with their one spinster daughter. Grandfather was in his fifties, an intensely serious man. He wore traditional black clothes and always walked with a fashionable walking stick. He was a well-respected member of our community; I saw people bowing to him and stoping him for advice. Grandfather was feared by his students and was known for disciplining them often. Before my father died, Adek was allowed to attend Grandfatherís Cheder for free. This was the only act of kindness we ever received from our fatherís family.

One summer morning, Mother sent me and the younger siblings to visit Grandfather. Mother didn't say it, but I understood that she was hoping that just once, Grandfather would be kind and give us something. I was too young to question why Grandfather was so indifferent to us, and even now I have this burning need to better understand the reason he had forsaken us. The truth is I always knew the answer. Deep in my heart there is the hurtful and shameful memory that I have kept buried for all these years.

I can still remember my mother telling me, with her head hanging low as if in shame, how our affluent Grandfather never approved of his sonís marriage to her. At the time of their marriage, not only the Polish favored a class society. The Jewish community did as well. Although mother and father both came from very religious backgrounds, each came from a different socio-economic class. My Grandfather never forgave his son for marrying beneath his class. Mother was a motherless girl from a poor family who was less educated than fatherís. This marriage and the grandchildren, Grandfather never accepted. That Adek was allowed to go to Grandfatherís school for free was the only act of acknowledgement when father was still alive. With fatherís death whatever acceptance existed, ceased. I know now as I write that Grandfatherís rejection and denial of me and my family was a trauma that I never put behind me. It haunts me even now.

Countless times I relive that day Mother sent us there. A very tall and wiry Grandfather opened the door. What happened next happened so quickly we hardly had time to turn and run. As soon as he saw us he grabbed his walking stick, with which he always walked on the street and proceeded to chase us away. We were so startled and shocked that all three of us tumbled down the stairs. There were tears and humiliation in Motherís eyes when I told her what happened. She never sent us there again. Fatherís family became strangers to us. Mother said it was just as well, that it was obvious that the man we called our Grandfather was not concerned with his sonís childrenís welfare. Following my motherís example, and as young as I was, my heart filled with humiliation that later turned to hate.

Mother, on the other hand came from a warm, kind family of eight siblings. They visited us often. We remained close for twenty-one years. The Second WW ripped us apart. I never saw them give mother any material help, but that doesnít mean they didnít. I do know they provided the emotional support she needed. I was told that my grandmother died young. I knew my grandfather, who lived near us, was elderly and lived alone, but mother never took me to visit him. She visited him often but always went alone. The only thing I ever found out was he never helped his daughter or grandchildren because he was very stingy. This didnít make sense to me as the families around us all helped each other as best they could.

At that time the customary thing to do was to keep saved money under a mattress instead of putting it in the bank. I often heard my mother worry out loud that one of her biggest fears was upon his death the neighbors would be the first to get to her fatherís money. The morning someone knocked on our door with the news of my grandfatherís death, I watched mother run to where Grandfather lived. By the time she got there the bag of money he kept under the mattress was gone.


Dedicated to our maternal grandmother and grandfather, Bina Symengauz and Pinkus Talasowicz, motherís brothers and sisters: Adek, Pola, Sala, Andza and Sevek, and to our fatherís family: his parents Icek Dawid Ejbuszyc and Ita Mariem Grinszpanholc, his sisters Dora and Bluma, his brother Szaya

All rights reserved. No part of this work may be used or reproduced with out written permission of the Author/Rights-Holder

To read more of the memoir, visit: http://www.theverylongview.com/WATH/ and click on ďMothers.Ē In the left-hand column youíll see chapters 1 Ė 4 of Beshert Ė It Was Meant To Be. For more information about the work, write to: suzanna_eibuszyc@yahoo.com

Suzanna Eibuszyc

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from the October 2010 Edition of the Jewish Magazine

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